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[Axlejames]

Are extreme mood swings normal in withdrawl

[fishinghat]

Perhaps one of the most common symptoms that normally occur during the height of withdrawal.

[Axlejames]

Ok and the numbness is that something that goes away my lungs hurt as well sorry just a lot and I'm at work

[fishinghat]

Numbness is fairly common and will subside. A few members have reported there lungs hurting but not many. They all recovered.

[Axlejames]

I think it's from hyperventalating does that make sense

[Axlejames]

Was the site down for everyone I panicked

[invalidusername]

Hi Axle,

 

Just in from work and catching up. 

 

Sounds like you have had a real tough one here, and wish there was some words. Please take advantage of what Gail has done, and without sounding negative, there is nothing to loose here, but your wife needs to know as best she can just what it is you are going through. I would never wish this sort of thing on anyone, but sometimes I wish I could wave a magic wand to give some people just 10 minutes of what we go through, and then to say "now try living with that EVERY BLOODY DAY!"

 

Take care of yourself - let it all out. In the bed, outside where you can shout where no-one can get offended, here on the forum. Doesn't matter. 

 

Then muster what you can and approach the other half with what Gail has suggested.

 

Oh.... and then report back. We're all behind you.

[Axlejames]

I need the article Gail and what I'm going through she said was just the final straw

[gail]

Title is Dear Caregiver, second or third topic above ours. Go!

In Family Support.

[fishinghat]

Yes AJ, the site was down for about 2 hours. Also adrenaline causes hyperventilation but to hyperventilate hard enough for your longs to hurt is rare. I would dare say it probably isn't the lungs but the intercostal muscles between the ribs. The intercostal muscles cause the lungs to expand and contract.

If it is the muscles there will be discomfort when your lungs reach full expansion on a very deep breath. If it is your lungs the pain will be fairly constant and maybe a little worse when you exhale as hard as you can. This is a general rule but there are exceptions.

[Axlejames]

I feel so sad and wore down now just an empty shell was feeling ok before today

[fishinghat]

Enjoy the good days when they come. That is a good sign. Slowly but surely they will come more often.

[Axlejames]

Thank you fish and all of you I dont think I can get through any of this without all of you I'm on 30 mg cymbalta that is a low dosage right I ask because at some point I will need to go down not anytime soon and just hoping it wont be as bad but idk I'm kind of just rambling because I'm in my house alone and just feel so alone sorry

[invalidusername]

Really feel for you Axle. This news today will have hit you hard. 

 

I know it is an over-used turn of phrase, but time is a great healer. Please feel free to ramble. If you are alone then that is the time to do it. No need to apologise. 

 

Your 30mg is lower than the therapeutic dose for anxiety and depression which is 60mg, but I won't lie to you, those 30mg left is still a journey by itself. But as and when you get that far to reduce - we are all here to help. 

[Axlejames]

Thank you iun it's just really hard right now I am still in shock and feel just numb to the world i felt like God was starting to speak to me again and now I'm back to just doubting everything i dont know how to get back

[invalidusername]

There is nothing wrong here - you are reacting the absolute right way for someone who has been subjected to such a rollercoaster of emotions.

 

The important thing is to let them out in whatever way you feel necessary. Keep such things in will only cause them to concentrate even more and come out at the wrong place or time. 

 

If I were anywhere close, I'd be over with a few drinks (not too many!), and help you see what you have still to come - no matter what direction your life goes. You are clearly a bloke in good touch with emotions, and any woman would be lucky to have someone like that. Don't loose faith in yourself as that person, ok....

[Axlejames]

Thanks iun it's nice to read your words I still cant believe all of this is happening I thought everything was fine up until 4 months ago I thought life was pretty good typical person I bought a house had another kid and started a career over the last 8 years I've built so much and in 4 months it's been turned upside down and poured out my meds got changed pushing me into withdrawl my sister passed away I've changed jobs twice (started working at my original employer) where I'm at right now and my wife wants a divorce I just dont understand I feel like everything is just falling apart but as I've said i am thankful for this place i can come for help

[invalidusername]

There is often no logic to these things mate. My wife came to UK from Europe and we had a real number done on us at the last point of renewing her permit. We called up the government home office to ask which form to use. We sent the one they told us - it was the wrong one. She was then told she will be deported. We were told we should have used a solicitor rather than asking the department directly. We have been through two years of torture. Having spent a year setting up a business for my wife and getting some customers, she was then forced out of work because she was "illegal". I have had to work stupid hours to make the money, leaving her at home with no work and no funds. I have spend £1000's on solicitors bills, been to high court in London - all because of a wrong form. We are both having to rebuild our lives again; me from so much stress that I couldn't cope, and the wife from now having social anxiety and agoraphobia to a severe degree.

 

We play the cards we are dealt, and sometimes we just don't get the hand we always would like. 

 

Life will not always be this way. Of that I can assure you. We are here for a purpose as I have said before. We can be blind to this purpose for a long time, but it will work out. I cannot say when, but as soon as you begin to find your way again, it will unfold and you will see why this all happened. Hat's story is a great testament to just this. A bloody strong chap for seeing it through, but he knew it was coming.

 

There is hope for us all - we just need to wait for it to catch us up.

[Axlejames]

I'd like to hear fish story if he would share it Iun I am truly sorry to read about this I hope things are better for you now your a great guy and deserve the best my friend

[invalidusername]

Bless you Axle.

 

If you have a search, you will find 'hats withdrawal details. 

 

Got to turn in now - busy day. Catch up tomorrow brother. Take it easy.

[Axlejames]

Is it normal to wake up tired all the time I sleep for what I think is 8 hours but I dont even want to get out of bed I'm do tired

[Axlejames]

Today feels like a step back again anxious and stressed and just blah I feel so unsure of life again

[gail]

AxleJames,

I know that, for the moment, you can't believe that eventually things will turn all right.
But they will Axle!

Fishinghat is an example of this. Perhaps he will narrate his own withdrawal later on, I can only say that it was 276 days of pure hell till he found the right meds to bring him back from there.

We all have our horror stories concerning Cymbalta. People who write here are at the end of the rope. And you my sweet will make it through with time and patience. Write and rant all you need to. We are here, and IUN is a treasure for you and so is Fish. Take a minute to give thanks to God for having such friends, you are blessed to have them.

You might wake up tired like that for a while. Time and patience. A good thing that you work, keeps your mind occupied on something else. Another reason to say Thanks.

Talk to you later Axle!

[Axlejames]

Thank you Gail and I do truly thank God for all of you I only have here to talk to people about what I'm going through it used to be my wife but now I only have all of you you all are a blessing thank you

[Axlejames]

Today feels like it will be this way forever

[Axlejames]

Goals I feel like I cant look to the future and make goals is this normal

[gail]

Your brain is not wired properly. No one can see clearly. All is normal. Looking into the future and making plans is nearly impossible for you at the moment.

All you have is this moment, one hour at a time!

We all had that feeling that we would always be this messed up, it's a lie!

[Axlejames]

Thank you Gail I have to share something God does work miracles over the last 18 years together and 13 years of being married not once has my wife ever liked the idea of marriage counseling or mental health for herself she text me this morning that we will most likely do marriage counseling and her own counseling i literally cant believe it even tho i haven't felt connected to God lately i still have been praying for a heart change on her end to me this is a miracle still feeling blah but slight hopeful

[gail]

Oh my God! Oh my God! The best news of the day Axle, am I ever glad for you!

Keep the hope up, have you shown her the article yesterday?

[Axlejames]

Not yet I'm waiting for her to calm down a bit